Is there a science to making friends?

As it turns out, yes there is.

The secret to making friends is this:

Transforming shallow questions into deeper (and more emotion-inviting) ones.

For example:

Instead of asking, "Where are you from?".

Ask: "What's the best thing about where you grew up?"

Why it works:

→ Studies show that deep conversations lead to greater happiness than small talk
→ Allows for vulnerability, which is key to building trust

Top tips to implementing it:

✅ Use the person's name in conversation

✅ Replace shallow questions with open-ended ones

✅ Listen actively and ask follow-up questions

✅ Share authentic information about yourself

✅ Focus on shared experiences or interests

✅ Practice empathy and show genuine interest

The key is to create a deeper connection while respecting boundaries.

Remember - Allow the other person to decide how deep they want to go.

Hope that helps!

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